Feeling a bit fed-up is really common when we have a new baby. Do you ever feel these things apply to you?
“I never seem to have a moment to be a normal human being any more”
“I would eat a whole pack of biscuits and a large bar of choc to try and feel better”
“Sometimes I only get 5 mins of adult conversation a day”
“I feel guilty all the time for finding this difficult”
If so, have you considered setting up a walking group with Ready Steady Mums?
My Personal Story
Since I was pregnant with my eldest son (who is now three), we have moved house twice, I’ve changed jobs, and I’ve put blood sweat and tears into setting up Ready Steady Mums. And it struck me, during the recent conversations on our Facebook Community, just how common this life-turmoil is for new mums. I’m not the only one dealing with extraordinary amounts of change!!! We all need to put effort into having a life that works and that we want, for example by: making new friends; building a supportive community; adapting our intimate relationship to flourish within family life; looking after our bodies and minds.
When we moved out of Earlsfield I cried all the way to Oundle. I had just made my new set of like-minded mum friends, I was finding my feet as a new mother, I felt proud to be making a difference for other mums in our community through the exercise programmes and local groups offered by Ready Steady Mums (which was really starting to take off).
But the house was too small for two babies, and my husband had just got a new job near Cambridge, so we had to leave London behind. We ended up moving just two weeks before my due date for our second son….
It was a roller-coaster! I made some new friends in Oundle, I set up a Socialcise group and enjoyed getting back in shape after our second son was born. I hadn’t really settled in though, when we finally managed to buy the house we really wanted, a thatched cottage in a village near Cambridge. So we moved again! I found it quite hard to make friends here. I was a newcomer – already with two babies – and I had missed the friendships made by bonding over pregnancy. Again, thank goodness, I ended up making my best friends through Ready Steady Mums. We renovated our new house, I changed jobs, and I do finally feel settled.
That’s me. I don’t always get it right, but I’ve learnt a few lessons for “the new mother who’s life is changing beyond recognition”!
Community-based exercise can help us embrace and enjoy motherhood and, whilst it takes some effort, it’s worth it.
I can see that setting up local exercise groups with fellow mums as part of the Ready Steady mums Socialcise Programme has been one of the most enjoyable and fulfilling experiences of motherhood. My sons love running, tumbling and balancing and I’m proud to be a role-model for them being physically active. Sometimes Ready Steady Mums has been incredibly challenging and hard work, but other times I think it’s the most inspiring opportunity I have to impact on something I care about, and then it feels EFFORTLESS. I’m on a mission to support other mothers who want to set up Socialcise Groups so you can make a difference too.
At a recent talk I gave at the Medical Women’s Federation Conference I showed these two slides.
Think you’re not a leader? Think again. Become a Socialcise Group Leader.